Cultivate Relationships

HOW DOES YOUR GARDEN GROW? You cannot neglect a relationship and expect it to grow. That’s not to say that all relationships are the same and need the same amount of time and attention. The nature and purpose of the relationship will determine the energy and time needed to cultivate it. Think about some of the many personal and professional relationships you have in your life. How much effort do you give them? Do you treat them the same? Of course not. And you shouldn’t. Every relationship is different but can fit into one of three categories: 

Some People Come into Our Lives for a Reason 

Many relationships are very short and occur for very specific reasons. Sometimes they come and then go away forever. Other times they are ongoing but intermittent. These relationships need only brief, periodic cultivation. 

List a few people who came into your life for a reason, and beside their name list how they helped you. 

Some People Come into Our Lives for a Season 

A second type of relationship lasts only for a period of time. These relationships may last only a few weeks or as long as several years. Many times they are related to our current circumstances or situations. But just because they are temporary doesn’t mean they’re not important. The cultivation of the relationships should just match the season. Relationships with our children’s teachers and coaches are often seasonal. So are many work relationships. Perhaps you work for a boss you enjoy, but the work is the only

Some People Come into Our Lives for a Lifetime 

The third kind of relationship is ongoing and permanent. These are few and very special. And if we want to keep them healthy and encourage them to grow, we must give them continual cultivation. Otherwise they are likely to shrivel and die. Our closest friendships are most valuable to us, and like anything of value, they cost us something. We cannot neglect them and expect them to thrive.

Just like in this memoir, “Tuesdays With Morrie.” The author, Mitch Albom, writes about all the lessons he received from his college professor, Morrie Schwartz, who was suffering from a life-threatening disease.

Mitch focused on how Morrie helped him understand some of the most complex problems of life. As Morrie had told him in the book, “Study me in my slow and patient demise. Watch what happens to me. Learn with me..” And he did. The author learned a lot of things from his Tuesday visits with Morrie.

Here are the most valuable lessons that we learned from the book “Tuesdays with Morrie”. Apply it you haw you cultivate relationships

Forgive Not Only Others But Also Yourself

“We need to forgive ourselves. For all the things we didn’t do. All the things we should have done. You can’t get stuck on the regrets of what should have happened.”

Most of us find it hard to forgive others, but what we don’t know is that it’s even harder to forgive ourselves. We tend to hold grudges in life, and somehow, it is the reason why we can’t entirely be happy.

In the book “Tuesdays with Morrie”, Morrie taught the author the practice of forgiveness. Not only to others but as well as to himself. We may regret the things we did in the past, but not everything is within our control. Not letting go about it won’t change anything, but a better outlook for the future might.

Live Your Life As If It Is Your Last Day

“Every day, have a little bird on your shoulder that asks, ‘Is today the day? Am I ready? Am I doing all I need to do? Am I the person I want to be?’”

Most of the time, we take our chances for granted – the opportunity to spend time with our family, to help other people, and the chance to do what we love.

It’s because most of us think that we always have more time to do the right thing. But the truth is we never know when would be the last time for us to say goodbye.

Morrie said, “Everyone knows they’re going to die, but nobody believes it.”

Although some of us don’t like to think about it, we all know that our hearts will stop beating, eventually. So we should give our best and not wait for a special time to express our love to everyone. The right time is always now.

Stop Chasing The Wrong Things

“So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning in your life is to devote yourself to loving others. Devote yourself to your community around you and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”

Most people are blinded by money and fame, so they often chase the wrong things. They tend to disregard their family and friends because they thought that it’s the material things that could keep them satisfied.

But for us to find meaning and joy in our life, we should learn to love not only ourselves but the other people as well. Being a part of your community can bring happiness and satisfaction that no amount of money can give you.

Do Things Whole-heartedly Without Expecting Something In Return

“Do the kinds of things that come from the heart. When you do, you won’t be dissatisfied. You won’t be envious, and you won’t be longing for somebody else’s things. On the contrary, you’ll be overwhelmed with what comes back.”

The reason why some people feel incomplete and unhappy is that they think only for themselves. Morrie taught us that selflessness and genuinely helping others brings us satisfaction and happiness.

The Only Thing That Dies Is Our Body, Not The Relationship We Have With Others

“As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of the love we had, we can die without ever really going away. All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on – in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here.”

When we die, it’s the body that is only going away, not the relationship we had from our family, friends, and our community. We will be remembered on how we were to them when we were still alive. So the people that we’ve helped, however small it is, we’ll surely leave an unforgettable space in their hearts. 

Be Compassionate and Help Others

“Whites and blacks, Catholics and Protestants, men and women. If we saw each other as more alike, we might be very eager to join in one big human family in this world. And to care about that family the way we care about our own.”

Some people believe that we are all different from each other; that’s why we don’t treat everyone the way we should. We might be unique, but we need to accept people who are different from ourselves. For Morrie, we are always stronger together than if we are divided.

He also said, “Be compassionate and take responsibility for each other. If we only learned those lessons, this world would be so much better a place.”

One of the final lessons that Morrie taught to Mitch is to be compassionate and help others. Morrie believed that our world would be a better place if we do whatever we can to help someone and look out for each other. 

There are a lot of things that Morrie has taught us about this book “Tuesdays with Morrie”. But what he really wants us to learn is to realize what is important to us, and that spreading compassion and love to the world are the only things that can truly make us happy.

A New thing!

Forget whats happened, dont keep going over old history. Be alert, be present. Im about to do something brand-new!! Its bursting out! Don’t you see it? There it is!!!!! Im making a road in the desert, rivers in the bad lands……..animals will say-Thank You…..because i am the God who provides water in the desert, rivers through the sunbaked earth………..Is 43:19

Hope You Enjoy todays Show!!!!

Lots of Love and

Lets keep our eyes Peeled for the Brand New that God is Doing Here on the Earth today!!!


Be a Lid Lifter!

John Maxwell’s “Law of the Lid” states that “leadership ability determines a person’s level of effectiveness.”

While I often write about personal growth and development, I want to challenge you today to help others grow. Think about the people you work with. Think about your family. Think about your friends. Whose lid can you lift?

Lifting someone’s lid is about helping them grow from where they are to where they want to be. It’s about giving people tools and insights to become a better leader. We don’t often see the areas we need to grow in. We need someone else’s perspective to show us our blind spots. This requires you to gently share with people what you are observing and offering to help them take steps forward.

Many people don’t believe they need to grow as leaders because they aren’t in a “leadership position.” However, Maxwell makes it clear in his “Law of Influence” that “leadership is influence – nothing more, nothing less.” Everyone has influence with someone. Why not excel at it?!

Today, be a lid lifter. Offer to help someone grow. Offer to read a book and discuss it together. Offer to share your observations of their strengths and weaknesses so they can formulate a growth plan. Help them become a better version of themselves.

Be Intentionally Great Today!

The Captain Jesus Manifesto

 My word for 2019, was Captain Jesus, which was a challenge to myself to let Jesus be the one in control of my life. 

Helicopters have joystick and I believe we all have a JoyStick (the controls of our lives). Captain Jesus has been challenging me to hand over this #Joystick and it has been my biggest challenge, but this is what I am learning. Learning to hand over a joystick, to the #JoyKing, so that he can take us on a #JoyRide and thats what I want for my life!!!  Not limited, controlled, small existence because i am too afraid to hand over controls.

You know what I am learning, is that, in reality, I don’t really have controls anyway, it’s a silly illusion I believe, because I cannot control anything in my life, except for my attitude and my choice for wanting to become the leader I was destined to be. The thing about choice is its either an expander/maximiser or a limiter in our lives. Every choice expands our future or limits future and when we make certain choices we sometimes choose limitations out of fear and insecurities.  But every thing we want in life stands not eh other side of fear. let me say that again:

“Everything you’ve ever wanted is sitting on the other side of fear.” 

Fear is a powerful emotion. It often masquerades as a cloak of protection, keeping us from doing things that may cause us harm. But sometimes, the real damage comes from the inaction that fear enables.

2019, was such a great year for me, a year of growth, a year of challenge to be better and in came 2020 and I chose a new word, MORE!!! 20XMORE to be exact and it was a year of change. As you see these past couple of months has challenged us, and we are starting to understand even more so that we are not in control.  And Captain Jesus with the Joystick is still my greatest hope. My hope is Anchored in the One who never changes.

So with that I am sharing some of the questions that challenge me to keep stepping up and out of my comfort zone. To keep stretching to all that God has called me for. Left to my own demise, i am not going to be able to do one sensible thing – you know me, I live one step away form stupid (hahaha)

So everyday I make mistakes, I take the joystick back like a little child. 

I remember when Bella was really small and she was playing with her legos, and when she broke it, I would offer help but she wanted to do it herself, she would be struggling but didn’t want my help. And the same way, I struggle, I try to figure things out my self and Holy Spirit is right there wanting to help, offering to help and I keep pulling aways saying No – I got this, No – I can fix this, but I keep challenging myself to offer it up – Hand full of broken things, broken dreams, broken plans, and I am reminding myself – all need to do is ask.

So  I offer my ask here: 

Its rough, its raw, it’s not perfect but it has helped me come before my God with ams open and i pray that it unlocks a beautiful friendship with the Holy Spirit and Captain Jesus.

It’s in the week after Pentecost that I write this, and I think its divinely inspired to remember the early days when the Holy Spirit came as fire and dwelt among us.

The purpose of Pentecost  is that we become  Christlike as the Holy Spirit is creating a new person in us by “writing” God’s ways on our minds and hearts. Jer 31:33

In a world driven by unreasonable deadlines and demands, it’s not unlikely that many are border lining a nervous breakdown. The relentless pressure to produce results feels like we are strapped onto a treadmill and the speed keeps increasing and we have not way to get off. 

“For a man is a slave to whoever has mastered him.” 2 Peter 2.19

Work has become our God and it was insatiable, no matter how hard we work, it is never enough. We have lost our meaning and have become slaves to a bottom-line pressure and have burned ourselves out. And we have become professionally ineffective.

The Solution

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your paths straight.

Prov 3:5-6

So if you are ready to make a change then lets start praying.

Jesus forgive me for not trusting you, for leaning on my own understanding, I look to you for direction, i look to for your wisdom. You said in your word, (James 1:5)  if anyone lacks wisdom we should ask of you, Lord. So i ask for wisdom for today.  Wisdom is a key and I  know that wisdom is what i need.

Proverbs 24:3-4 – By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches.

Jesus in your word it says “For i know the plans i have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper me, plans not to harm me, plans to give me a future and a hope.

Holy Spirit I ask of you:

  1. Please be my guide today, i pray that you will be with me today, that you will speak to my heart, that you will challenge me to become my best self today, you will guide me into all truth, as your word says. The purpose of my life is to be moulded into the image of my Christ, please help to become everything you called me, to become everything that you intended. I want to return to you at the end of my life, knowing i did everything you called me to do on earth. that i return to you empty and fulfilling everything in my mandate. Help me to challenge fear in my life, especially where it holds me back, limits me from my calling.
  2. Holy Spirit as my guide today i pray that you will open my eyes to the work that I am called to do ?
  3. Please give me wisdom in building my house on the solid rock today. Please reveal to my areas in my life, that i need your and your leadership?
  4. Please prompt my heart for the things of your kingdom. Help me find meaning in my everyday work.  You wired me with a purpose, passions and strengths, i need your help in utilising these gifts to serve the world everyday.
  5. Holy Spirit please take captive of my mind, may no thought exhalt itself higher than you and your word. Bring to my awareness any limiting agreements and decisions  that I made because of pain and hurt that doesn’t serve my purpose and my gift to the world and help me to pull down these strongholds down daily.
  6. Put a guard on my lips, may you Guide me that only words of life will be uttered from these lips towards myself or any other of your creations. I know that out of the abundance of my heart, y mouth speaks, so speak to my daily that i will mediate on your word day and night .
  7. I pray that you will renew my mind as i dwell, in your spirit. As you word states – Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.  (Rom 12:2) I pray for my mind to be transformed daily, I pray that you will give me discernment in every moment of today -to discern your perfect will. Take over my thougtts, break the patterns of limitation, lack and scarcity, I ask now for Abundance in my thoughts,  for big thinking, for Possibility Mindset- because with you All things are possible!! I dont want my lack of imagination to Limit you God!!!Challenge my mind today !!!
  8. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask, think or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen’ (Ephesians 3:20–21)

I hope this prayer adds value to you

With Love

Coach Ella’

10 Human Victories

Yesterday we spoke about the 10 regrets – and i hope you are challenged to want more for your life ! The lost below speaks of 10 victories that can be ours, but it requires intentionality and effort!!! But this what really living is about 😃

  1. You reach your end full of happiness and fulfillment on realising that you are all used up – having spent the fullness of your talents, the biggest of your resources, and best of your potential doing great work and leading a rare-air life.
  2. You reach your end knowing that you played at a standard of concentrated excellence and held yourself to the most impeccable standards in each thing you did.
  3. You reach your end in noisy celebration for having the boldness of spirit to have regularly confronted your largest fears and realised your highest visions.
  4. You reach your end and recognise that you became a person who build people up versus one who tore people down.
  5. You reach your end with the understanding that while your journey may have not always been a smooth one, whenever you got knocked down you instantly got back up – and at all times, never suffered from any loss optimism.
  6. You reach your end and bask in the staggering glory of your phenomenal achievements along with the rich value you have contributed to the lives of the people you were lucky to serve.
  7. You reach your end and adore the strong, ethical, inspirational and empathetic person you grew into.
  8. You reach your end and realise that you were a genuine innovator who blazed new trails instead of following old roads.
  9. You reach your end surrounded with teammates who call you a rock star, customers who say you’re a hero, and loved ones who call you a legend.
  10. You reach your end as a true Leader Without a Title, knowing that the great deeds you did will endure long after your death and that your life stands as a model of possibility.

Lets do this 🚀


Candid Conversations

Have you been dodging an important conversation? The kind of conversation that may be uncomfortable, in a situation that you wish would just take care of itself? Are you dancing around a subject, being less direct, less candid than you really should be because you fear conflict or don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings?

Have you been dodging an important conversation? The kind of conversation that may be uncomfortable, in a situation that you wish would just take care of itself? Are you dancing around a subject, being less direct, less candid than you really should be because you fear conflict or don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings? Preparing for candid conversations can be hard.

You know what’s going to happen, right? As a result of not being candid, we can let situations like this stew and brew until they erupt and end up causing more damage than was necessary. It’s only a matter of time before one of you gets so frustrated by what’s unspoken that you will say things that shouldn’t be said instead of having a candid conversation about what needs to be discussed.

But you’d rather risk handling a ticking time bomb than put in the time and effort and emotional risk of having THAT conversation. I know. I’ve felt the same way at times. You’ll have to weigh the stakes of speaking up versus letting this one fester. Just don’t wimp out if the stakes of doing so are greater than those few moments of discomfort required to initiate the conversation.

If you decide to go for it, to have a candid conversation, here are some tips that may make it more productive. (I didn’t say these would make it any easier, but that is a possibility. … for now, let’s focus on at least getting somewhere with the conversation.)

First, know what it means to be candid. It’s doesn’t mean you have the green light to be unkind or to go on the attack. In fact, to be effective at being candid, you have to put some real thought and objectivity into your preparation. Candor means “the state or quality of being frank, open, and sincere in speech or expression; free from reservation, disguise, or subterfuge; straightforward.” The synonyms for candor are: matter-of-fact, frank, flat-out, plainspoken, straightforward, direct. It’s all about being truthful in a way that someone else can find constructive support in what you say to them.

Preparing for a Candid Conversation: 7 Checks

To prepare yourself for candid conversations, take these seven steps before you tackle the conversation. These will boost your confidence and help you reign in your emotions. Going into the conversation with the right intent minimizes the other party’s defensiveness and means the conversation is less likely to devolve into an emotionally-charged exchange.

  1. Have clarity of purpose.
  2. Identify emotional triggers.
  3. Check your assumptions.
  4. Focus on the positive outcomes.
  5. Consider the other perspective.
  6. Organize your thoughts and back up your key points with specifics and examples.
  7. Plan for “We” and “I” (not “You”) statements.

These are simple preparations. We often shortchange their importance because we are acting on our own emotion or we feel we’re too time-taxed to take these steps. But it’s charging into these candid conversations without being thoughtfully prepared that becomes a time drain. Not only does the conversation itself take longer, but we put obstacles and hurt feelings in our relationships that may take a long time to heal. It is worth the time to think and prepare before you speak candidly.

Preparing for Candid Conversations: 4 Neutral Statement Ideas

So now you’re ready for the conversation… Be sure to open it up with a neutral statement, one that doesn’t accuse or blame. Here are some ideas for good openings:

  • “I’d like to discuss ______. And I’d like to start by understanding your point of view.”
  • “I think we have different perceptions about _______. Tell me your thoughts.”
  • “I have something I’d like to discuss with you that I think will help us work together more efficiently.”
  • “Let’s talk about what just happened.”

You’ll notice that these conversations start by being inclusive and open. You’ll be operating with an assumption that there really are two sides to every story. Rather than entering into the conversation to force your own agenda, you are seeking first to understand. To do that throughout the conversation, you’ll want to inquire with an open mind. Then you should acknowledge the other party’s position and that you’ve heard and understood what they had to say. Don’t race through these first two steps –– they are extremely important because we all just want to be heard and understood.

Once you’ve truly heard and understood, you can advocate your position without attacking the other party’s position. This isn’t about a point-for-point competition. In fact, there may be aspects of the situation where you are both right. So consider collaborating to build a mutually agreeable solution. If the conversation does become adversarial, go back to one of the opening statements and follow this process through again and again.

Maintain your own objectivity throughout. If emotions get out of control, call a time out and refocus on your preparation steps. Remind yourself that you want a productive outcome and a preserved relationship more than you want to have your emotional release. Tirades, dressings down, woe-is-me whining, and tears won’t get you want you really want from this conversation. Keep yourself in check.

Preparing for Candid Conversations: 8 Cautions

Here’s a list of cautions. You’ll know you’re going too far outside the boundaries and that the conversation is becoming unproductive if:

  • You don’t maintain objectivity.
  • You resort to blaming or shaming.
  • You use superlatives (always, never).
  • You do not offer specifics & examples.
  • You beat around the bush.
  • You minimize and apologize.
  • You “protect” someone from the truth.
  • Your message is not clear.

You can do this. You have the time, and you have the spine. All you need to do is prepare yourself and proceed.

Are you a Leaner or Lifter?

Studies show some critically important facts about the workplace. First, the number one reason people leave their jobs is that they don’t feel appreciated. Also, 9 out of 10 people say they are more productive when they are around positive people.

Leadership is your ability to lift and lead others!!!

Every single person you meet – needs to be lifted to higher level. That is leadership. Does your presence in another’s life – lift them.

Are You a Lifter or Leaner?

There are just two kinds of people on earth today,

Just two kinds of people, no more, I say.

There are just two kinds of people on earth today,

Not the rich and the poor, for to count a man’s wealth

You must first know the state of his conscience and health.

Not the humble and proud, for, in life’s little span,

Who puts on airs is not counted a man.

Not the happy and sad, for the swift counting years

Bring each man his laughter and each man his tears.

No, the two kinds of people on earth I mean

Are the people who lift and the people who lean.

Wherever you go you will find the world’s masses

Are always divided in just these two classes.

And oddly enough you will find, too, I ween,

There’s only one lifter to twenty who lean.

In which class are you?

Are you easing the load

Of overtaxed lifters who toil down the road?

Or are you a leaner who lets others bear

Your portion of labour and worry and care?

– Ella Wheeler Wilcox –

Studies show some critically important facts about the workplace. First, the number one reason people leave their jobs is that they don’t feel appreciated. Also, 9 out of 10 people say they are more productive when they are around positive people. One study found that negative employees can scare off every client they come in contact with – for good!

Answer these questions if you are serious about becoming a Lifting Leader!

  • Are you Willing to Invest in Others?

Are you willing to invest in other people? You may build a beautiful house, but eventually it will crumble. You may develop a fine career, but one day it will be over. You may save a great sum of money, but you can’t take it with you. You may be in superb health today, but in time it will decline. You may take pride in your accomplishments, but someone will surpass you.Relationships are like anything else. The return you get depends on what you invest.

  • Are you willing to be vulnerable and courageous?

Approachable people are real. They engage with others on a genuine level, and don’t pretend to be someone they’re not. They don’t go out of their way to hide what they think and feel. They have no hidden agenda. Authenticity wins every time.

  • Are you willing to focus on others?

All human beings possess a desire to connect with other people. The need for connection is sometimes motivated by the desire for love, but it can just as easily be prompted by feelings of loneliness, the need for acceptance, the quest for fulfillment or the desire to achieve in business.

To fulfill our desire for relationships, we must stop thinking about ourselves and begin focusing on the people with whom we desire to build relationships. When you stop wor- rying so much about yourself and start looking at others and what they desire, you build a bridge to other people and you become the kind of person others want to be around.

  • Are you willing to learn from other and be teachable?

Each person we meet has the potential to teach us something. All of us can learn things in unlikely places and from unlikely people. But that’s only true if we have the right attitude. If you have a teachable attitude, you will be positioned well to learn from others.  Leaders who think they know everything and shut down other peoples input, very quickly find themselves alone.


You are responsible for developing your talent and the team around you’s talent as well. How do you do this effectively? You do it by becoming a leader who lifts constantly, take people higher, lighten the load, keep adding value and watch your leadership compound.

Lots of Love


Successful Thinking

Several years ago, I taught a lesson titled, “How Leaders Think.” Like a lot of my older lessons, there is plenty about the content that I would have to change if I were to present it today—after all, I’ve grown over the years, and what I think about thinking has changed quite a bit.

But as I thought about this week’s blog, I couldn’t help but pull out my old notes. Leadership requires constant thought; if you’re not thinking about a problem, then you’re thinking about your people, or thinking about possibilities.

The mind of a leader is in near-constant motion.

What every leader needs to consider, is whether or not that motion is producing something worthwhile. After all, activity doesn’t equal accomplishment—especially in your thinking.

So how do you think like a leader?

Leaders Think Big

Nothing hurts a leader like small thinking. When you’re at the top of the decision ladder, you need to bring your A-game to every situation. Pushing the envelope with creativity and vision is essential for a leader.

The reason is simple: everyone else will try and talk your ideas down. And that’s good—you need people on your team who will challenge you and reign you in. But that means it’s your job to think big so that the ideas you settle on aren’t too small.

Big thinking isn’t reckless thinking either. It’s just big. You are responsible for the big picture, and big picture thinking by nature cannot be small—otherwise, we’d call it small picture thinking. Reality still must come into play, but that doesn’t mean you can’t define a new, larger reality to chase.

Leaders Think Others First

Say it with me: leadership is about serving others. That means leaders should make other people a priority in their thinking.

Leaders want more for others, even before they know to want it themselves. Leaders see more than others, not just in terms of strategy and vision, but in terms of seeing potential and talent in the people around you.

So, it’s only natural that leaders think more and before others—and think a lot about those others in the process.

You should be thinking about how to grow your people and encourage them to grow themselves.

You should be thinking about which people have leadership potential and how you can develop that within your organization.

You should be thinking about which people solve problems, take initiative, and add value to the mission so you can move faster, go farther, and do more.

And you should be thinking about other ways you can add value to people as their leader. Because without other people, you’re not a leader—you’re just a person with a mission looking for a team.

Leaders Think with Focus

The last thing I want to say about thinking like a leader is that leadership thinking requires focus. That’s because a leader rarely has two consecutive good days on the job, which means a leader has to be intentional about thinking and be intentional while thinking.

Intentionality about thinking is a matter of schedule and priority. If you make thinking a priority (and you should), then putting time on your calendar for thinking is the next natural step. I recommend leaders have a dedicated thinking place and a dedicated thinking time—and stick to both. Too often leaders aren’t intentional about their thinking, and the end result suffers.

Intentionality with thinking is a matter of consistency. It means eliminating excuses and distractions. I have a lot of young leaders on my teams, and it’s not uncommon for them to lament on the amount of overwhelm they experience—and not just because we keep them busy!

Every leader knows what it means to be overwhelmed—to have more problems or possibilities than you know how to handle. Overwhelm is normal, and intentional thinking is the best antidote. Nothing combats too many ideas like focusing on one or two, just like nothing destroys a creative block like jotting down as many ideas as possible.

Thinking is rarely a one-way street. Just like healthy eating and exercise are the surest—and least used—methods for losing weight, setting aside time to think and actually thinking are the best way to combat overwhelm.

That type of thinking is so crucial, I wrote the book How Successful People Think. I wanted leaders to have a practical guide to different (and essential) types and styles of thinking. It’s also why my team is developing a new Mentor’s Guide to Focused Thinking. We want to help leaders think like leaders!

My thinking about thinking may have changed over the years, but one thing remains the same: I spend time thinking!

And so should you.

Thinking is how leaders—good leaders—take their people to the top.

-Our thoughts determine our destiny. Our destiny determines our legacy -People who go to the top think differently than others
-We can change the way we think!

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#CRAZYONES: Guglielmo Marconi

Who was Guglielmo Marconi? The story of the man behind radio communications

The engineer, inventor and Nobel Prize winner is credited with the invention of radio transmission.

It’s fair to say that the Italian engineer and inventor Guglielmo Marconi changed how we spoke to each other. Through his work on wireless telegraphy, he invented the first effective system of radio transmission and laid the groundwork for modern global mass communication.

Marconi was born on April 25, 1874, in Bologna, Italy, the son of a wealthy landowner father and an Irish mother. Though not an exceptional scholar, the young Marconi was very interested in science and in particular electricity and radio waves; a neighbour who was a physicist at the University of Bologna allowed Marconi to attend his lectures and also use the University library and laboratory.

Working mainly in the attic of his home, Marconi began working on the idea of sending telegraph messages that didn’t rely on a network of connecting wires. Building on earlier work into radio waves by the likes of Henry Hertz and Oliver Lodge, he was able to develop the first basic wireless telegraphy system.

The Italian Ministry of Posts & Telegraphs was unimpressed, however, and refused to fund further research, so Marconi travelled to London. Here, he was introduced to William Preece, engineer-in-chief to the General Post Office – the forerunner of BT. Preece and the Post Office agreed to support Marconi’s research in the UK and on July 27, 1896, Marconi successfully demonstrated his wireless telegraphy system by sending a signal between two Post Office buildings – one of which is the site of the modern-day BT Centre in Newgate Street.

On May 13, 1897, Marconi sent the world’s first ever wireless communication over open sea, over a distance of 6km (3.7 miles). Over the course of the next few years he continued experimenting, founding the Marconi Telegraph Company and demonstrating his inventions in his home country and in the US.

Then, on December 12, 1901, Marconi sent and received the first wireless message across the Atlantic Ocean, from Cornwall to a military base in Newfoundland, Canada. This was particularly significant as it disproved the prevailing belief that the curvature of the Earth would affect transmission.

He continued to experiment to stretch the range of wireless transmission. On December 17, 1902, a transmission from the Marconi station in Nova Scotia, Canada became the first radio message to cross the Atlantic from North America, and he began to build high-powered stations on both sides of the Atlantic to communicate with ships at sea.

Marconi shared the Nobel Prize in Physics with Karl Braun in 1909, in recognition of their contributions to the development of wireless telegraphy. He received even greater acclaim when his wireless system was used by the crew of the RMS Titanic to call for assistance in 1912; Postmaster General Herbert Samuel, said of the disaster: “Those who have been saved, have been saved through one man, Mr Marconi… and his marvellous invention.”

After serving in both the Italian army and Navy during World War I, Marconi continued his experiments. In 1919 he bought a yacht, renamed it ‘Elettra’ and turned it into a floating laboratory. The yacht was the site of his research breakthrough in the early 1920s on shortwave, or high frequency, radio transmission. This finally made long-distance wireless commercially competitive with cable telegraphy and greatly expanded communications possibilities.

In 1920, his New Street Works in Chelmsford – the first dedicated radio factory in the world – was the source of the first UK entertainment radio broadcasts: the first featuring a performance by Australian soprano Dame Nellie Melba.

Two years later, regular entertainment broadcasts began from the Marconi Research Centre at nearby Great Baddow, and later that same year, after receiving a flurry of applications for broadcast licences, the GPO opted to grant a single licence to a consortium of leading wireless receiver manufacturers called the British Broadcasting Corporation.

Marconi spent his last years in Italy continuing to experiment with radio technology, being made a marquess by King Victor Emmanuel III in 1929. He died of heart disease in 1937 aged 63; at 6pm the next day, the time of his state funeral, all BBC transmitters and wireless Post Office transmitters in the British Isles observed two minutes of silence in his honour.

In 1943, the US Supreme Court restored some of his patents to other scientists, including Oliver Lodge and Nikola Tesla, though this had no effect on Marconi’s claim that he was the first to produce radio transmission.