Your Success BluePrint E-Book

You can see by the definition above why success is a journey rather than a destination. No matter how long you live or what you decide to do in life, you will never exhaust your capacity to grow toward your potential, nor will you run out of opportunities to help others. When you see success as a journey, then you never have the problem of trying to “arrive” at an elusive final destination. And you’ll never find yourself in a position where you’ve accomplished some final goal – only to discover that you’re still unfulfilled and searching for something else to do.

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You can see by the definition below why success is a journey rather than a destination. No matter how long you live or what you decide to do in life, you will never exhaust your capacity to grow toward your potential, nor will you run out of opportunities to help others. When you see success as a journey, then you never have the problem of trying to “arrive” at an elusive final destination. And you’ll never find yourself in a position where you’ve accomplished some final goal – only to discover that you’re still unfulfilled and searching for something else to do.

Success BluePrint

When will you be successful? If you’re like most people, what comes to mind is someday—somewhere off in the future, when you’ll suddenly wake up and think, “I made it! I’m a success!” That’s how most unsuccessful people see success: as something to strive for and hope to reach “someday.”

Each of us has a picture in mind of what we want our career to look like, our family to look like, and yes, from an early age we often conjure up images of the houses, cars, and things we would like to obtain. In many persons’ minds, success is something way off in the distance that they will run themselves ragged to get to – if they ever get to it at all.

At one time, I viewed success as a place where I would arrive. I defined it as the progressive realization of a predetermined, worthwhile goal. But over time, I realized that the definition falls short of the mark. It leads to “destination disease” – the belief that if we just arrive somewhere (e.g. attain a position, accomplish a goal, have a relationship with the right person), we will be successful.

But many years ago, I came to a different conclusion about success. All the traditional definitions either made success a destination to reach, or required some magic formula to obtain. I began to see success as a journey, an ongoing process of growth. And after over nearly fifty years of knowing successful people and studying the subject, this is the definition of success that I now embrace:

Success is…

Knowing your purpose in life,

Growing to reach your maximum potential, and

Sowing seeds that benefit others.

10 Human Victories

Yesterday we spoke about the 10 regrets – and i hope you are challenged to want more for your life ! The lost below speaks of 10 victories that can be ours, but it requires intentionality and effort!!! But this what really living is about 😃

  1. You reach your end full of happiness and fulfillment on realising that you are all used up – having spent the fullness of your talents, the biggest of your resources, and best of your potential doing great work and leading a rare-air life.
  2. You reach your end knowing that you played at a standard of concentrated excellence and held yourself to the most impeccable standards in each thing you did.
  3. You reach your end in noisy celebration for having the boldness of spirit to have regularly confronted your largest fears and realised your highest visions.
  4. You reach your end and recognise that you became a person who build people up versus one who tore people down.
  5. You reach your end with the understanding that while your journey may have not always been a smooth one, whenever you got knocked down you instantly got back up – and at all times, never suffered from any loss optimism.
  6. You reach your end and bask in the staggering glory of your phenomenal achievements along with the rich value you have contributed to the lives of the people you were lucky to serve.
  7. You reach your end and adore the strong, ethical, inspirational and empathetic person you grew into.
  8. You reach your end and realise that you were a genuine innovator who blazed new trails instead of following old roads.
  9. You reach your end surrounded with teammates who call you a rock star, customers who say you’re a hero, and loved ones who call you a legend.
  10. You reach your end as a true Leader Without a Title, knowing that the great deeds you did will endure long after your death and that your life stands as a model of possibility.

Lets do this 🚀

Ella

How do we live our lives?

Today i am reminded of a post that a mentor shared with me and i thought to share it here. I listened to a song of Toby Mac – its a latest one and he reminded me of this post again.

When we reach the end of our life will we be filled with deep regret for the things we didn’t do or will we feel victorious knowing we have done all we can to make the world a better place for each other.

These are the 10 regrets that Robin Sharma lays out, and I do think they concisely express many of our greatest regrets and fears. I think to truly live an extraordinary life you need to recognize these regrets so you can find a path in life that will help you avoid them. In tomorrows blog post we will discuss the ideas of the 10 Human Victories.

1. You reach your last day with the brilliant song that your life was meant to sing still silent within you.

2. You reach your last day without ever having experienced the natural power that inhabits you to do great work and achieve great things.

3. You reach your last day realizing that you never inspired anyone else by the example that you set.

4. You reach your last day full of pain at the realization that you never took any bold risks and so you never received any bright rewards.

5. You reach your last day understanding that you missed the opportunity to catch a glimpse of mastery because you bought into the lie that you had to be resigned to mediocrity.

6. You reach your last day and feel heart broken that you never learned the skill of transforming adversity into victory and lead into gold.

7. You reach your last day regretting that you forgot that work is about being radically helpful to others rather than being helpful only to yourself.

8. You reach your last day with the awareness that you ended up living the life that society trained you to want versus leading the life you truly wanted to have.

9. You reached your last day and awaken to the fact that you never realized your absolute best nor touched the special genius that you were built to become.

10. You reach your last day and discover you could have been a leader and left this world so much better than you found it. But you refused to accept that mission because you were just too scared. And so you failed. And wasted a life.

With Love

Ella

Are you a Leaner or Lifter?

Studies show some critically important facts about the workplace. First, the number one reason people leave their jobs is that they don’t feel appreciated. Also, 9 out of 10 people say they are more productive when they are around positive people.

Leadership is your ability to lift and lead others!!!

Every single person you meet – needs to be lifted to higher level. That is leadership. Does your presence in another’s life – lift them.

Are You a Lifter or Leaner?

There are just two kinds of people on earth today,

Just two kinds of people, no more, I say.

There are just two kinds of people on earth today,

Not the rich and the poor, for to count a man’s wealth

You must first know the state of his conscience and health.

Not the humble and proud, for, in life’s little span,

Who puts on airs is not counted a man.

Not the happy and sad, for the swift counting years

Bring each man his laughter and each man his tears.

No, the two kinds of people on earth I mean

Are the people who lift and the people who lean.

Wherever you go you will find the world’s masses

Are always divided in just these two classes.

And oddly enough you will find, too, I ween,

There’s only one lifter to twenty who lean.

In which class are you?

Are you easing the load

Of overtaxed lifters who toil down the road?

Or are you a leaner who lets others bear

Your portion of labour and worry and care?

– Ella Wheeler Wilcox –

Studies show some critically important facts about the workplace. First, the number one reason people leave their jobs is that they don’t feel appreciated. Also, 9 out of 10 people say they are more productive when they are around positive people. One study found that negative employees can scare off every client they come in contact with – for good!

Answer these questions if you are serious about becoming a Lifting Leader!

  • Are you Willing to Invest in Others?

Are you willing to invest in other people? You may build a beautiful house, but eventually it will crumble. You may develop a fine career, but one day it will be over. You may save a great sum of money, but you can’t take it with you. You may be in superb health today, but in time it will decline. You may take pride in your accomplishments, but someone will surpass you.Relationships are like anything else. The return you get depends on what you invest.

  • Are you willing to be vulnerable and courageous?

Approachable people are real. They engage with others on a genuine level, and don’t pretend to be someone they’re not. They don’t go out of their way to hide what they think and feel. They have no hidden agenda. Authenticity wins every time.

  • Are you willing to focus on others?

All human beings possess a desire to connect with other people. The need for connection is sometimes motivated by the desire for love, but it can just as easily be prompted by feelings of loneliness, the need for acceptance, the quest for fulfillment or the desire to achieve in business.

To fulfill our desire for relationships, we must stop thinking about ourselves and begin focusing on the people with whom we desire to build relationships. When you stop wor- rying so much about yourself and start looking at others and what they desire, you build a bridge to other people and you become the kind of person others want to be around.

  • Are you willing to learn from other and be teachable?

Each person we meet has the potential to teach us something. All of us can learn things in unlikely places and from unlikely people. But that’s only true if we have the right attitude. If you have a teachable attitude, you will be positioned well to learn from others.  Leaders who think they know everything and shut down other peoples input, very quickly find themselves alone.

Conclusion

You are responsible for developing your talent and the team around you’s talent as well. How do you do this effectively? You do it by becoming a leader who lifts constantly, take people higher, lighten the load, keep adding value and watch your leadership compound.

Lots of Love

Ella

Successful People Think Differently than unsuccessful people

I have been a student of thinking for the past several years. It’s what gets me going. It’s critical to make progress in life. So if you want to learn about thinking here, then join me as we cover Think-Ability over the next few weeks.

I have been a student of thinking for the past several years. It’s what gets me going. It’s critical to make progress in life. So if you want to learn about thinking here, then join me as we cover Think-Ability over the next few weeks.

Question 1: How skilled are you in your thinking?

Does your thinking help your achievement? If you are currently not successful, or not as successful as you would like to be, it maybe because you need to jumpstart your thinking.

Over the next few weeks we will learn:

  • How we can improve our thinking – because to do well in life , we must first think well,
  • The ideas and action steps to help you make the best use of your most precious possession: your mind,
  • Discovery of new mental habits that can be learned and that by changing some of them, you can change your life,
  • Specific techniques on how to think, not what to think,
  • How to see an immediate impact and open the door to new possibilities.

Over the next 90 days, consistently set aside 15 minutes every day for the next 90 days to think intentionally about how you think. Join me in unpacking your thoughts and your inklings and move forward by taking action to the questions that follow.

Day 1

You are today where your thoughts have brought you. You will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.

James Allen

Changing from a negative thought pattern to a positive one is the biggest most important improvement you can make in your thinking. We are wired with a negative bend

12 things Successful people think

We can learn a lot by observing the most successful among us in action. What thoughts do they have during their day? What makes them tick? Here are 12 of their most powerful thoughts.

We can learn a lot by observing the most successful among us in action. What thoughts do they have during their day? What makes them tick? Here are 12 of their most powerful thoughts.

1. I love my job!

The most successful have taken the time to find out who they are and what makes them tick. Their work resonates with every fiber of their being, and they love what they do.

2. I will see this through.

Even when things are looking grim or there are huge obstacles in the way of success, remarkably successful people persevere toward the achievement of their goals.

3. I will find a better way.

When they see that a system isn’t working any longer, they brainstorm ideas for making something that is broken work again.

4. I have my day mapped out.

They schedule out their day and conquer their top priorities first, crossing tasks off their list as they are accomplished.

5. I might stumble, but I will not fall.

Successful people know that they won’t succeed at everything and that there will be those inevitable failures. They turn these failures into learning experiences and keep going strong, knowing the next success is right around the corner.

6. I have the time.

Successful people find the time to achieve their goals of the day, even if it means getting up at 5 a.m. or working late into the night.

7. I will continue to grow as a person.

The most successful people aren’t searching for perfection and instead have an insatiable curiosity and thirst for learning new things and ways of doing things. They have a deep desire to grow personally and professionally and learn as much as they can along their way to huge success.

8. I create my own success.

They don’t rely on others to pave their way to success. They truly believe that through their commitment, work ethic, and beliefs, success can be theirs.

9. I am focused on the here and now.

They don’t let past mistakes bog them down and instead live each day as if it is a new, fresh beginning–a new day to lay down the path for accomplishing their goals and even to begin new goals.

10. I have clear goals.

Even if they aren’t necessarily 100 percent sure how they are going to achieve them at first, the most successful people always have clearly defined goals and know where their headed or, at least, where they want to be headed.

11. I know when it’s time to pull the plug.

When others might be tempted to hold on a few more days or weeks, the most successful people have an innate ability to know when the pursuit of a particular goal needs to end–that defining moment when they come to the realization that continued pursuit is a waste of their time and resources.

12. I am so thankful for what I have.

They never forget to be thankful for what and whom they have in their lives and the successes they have achieved. They appreciate the support from family, friends, and colleagues and make sure to let them know how appreciated they are on a regular basis.

From Career to Calling

Most people miss this one. This fundamental issue that troubles us, haunts us, pulls our hair by the stars. It’s our calling. Most people focus on making a living and not on creating a life.

“Some wake up to an Alarm. Some Wake up to a calling” -UNKNOWN

Most people miss this one. This fundamental issue that troubles us, haunts us, pulls our hair by the stars. It’s our calling. Most people focus on making a living and not on creating a life.

Most people fall into 3 groups:

  • You do a job
  • You build a career
  • You fulfil your calling

Author Frederick Buechner said that your purpose is at “that place where your deep gladness meets the world’s deep need.” When you find your calling- when you find what is calling you, it will result in you merging your skills, talents, character traits and experiences. It will make use of your experience, you gifts, and the lessons you’ve learned. It will be represented by a deep desire to create, lead, inspire and make a difference. Take a look at this table by Dr John C Maxwell:

CareerCalling
Mainly about youMainly about others
Something you chooseSomething chosen for you
Separated from your best lifeIntegrated into your entire life
You can take it or leave itNever leaves you
Something you can doSomething you must do
Measured by successMeasured by significance

When you find your calling – your why -you find the reason why you exist, your purpose for living. You are excited everyday for the rest of your life. People know you for YOUR ENERGY and EXCITEMENT for life.

  • When you find your why – you find YOUR WAY.
  • When you find your why you find YOUR WILL.
  • When you find your why you find YOUR WINGS.

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Discover your Genuis

Discovering what you are really good at is the first step to finding meaning and fulfilment in life. I love this quote of Albert Einstein who says:

Discovering what you are really good at is the first step to finding meaning and fulfilment in life. I love this quote of Albert Einstein who says:

WHY STRENGTHS?

Research shows that, when we use our strengths, we’re happier, more engaged and more likely to achieve our goals. This doesn’t just benefit you, but also people, groups, teams, and organizations you work with. When each person knows their strengths and makes use of them, group and team relationships are stronger and people achieve better results.

The best time of the Year!!!

this the time where I reflect and review my year and plan the following one. I learned this practice from Dr John C Maxwell, about how he and his wife use this time fo the year to review the year and re-prioritise the plans for the new year etc.

This is by far the very best time of the year for me. Besides Christmas being totally awesome all by itself, where Christ changes the trajectory of our lives, but also because this the time where I reflect and review my year and plan the following one. I learned this practice from Dr John C Maxwell, about how he and his wife use this time fo the year to review the year and re-prioritise the plans for the new year etc.

So I guess you can guess what I have been doing this past couple of days!!! Reviewing 2019, and building the anticipation for a new year of absolute growth and development.

Looking back at 2019, and doing proper reflection makes me super grateful for all I have accomplished, I am always so hard on myself in the daily grind, thinking I should do more, and why didn’t I get that done – but I have set in motion so many things that will bring in a reward in the next few years and for this I am super proud of myself.

Theres a Tool I have developed Called To2020&Beyond!!! – its a Coaching Tool, a Life Map a Compass – that I use every year!!!

Download a complimentary Copy Here and Enjoy !!!

Lots of Love and Light

Ella

The Entreprenuers Growth Planner

I have created an Entrepreneurial Growth Planner here and you are welcome to access and utilise to set up your 2020 Growth Plan.

Setting God-Goals is what we as Children of God are meant to do !! And for ~entreprenuers this especially true. This is the time of the year to set 2020 up for Success……

I have created an Entrepreneurial Growth Planner here and you are welcome to access and utilise to set up your 2020 Growth Plan.

From the No Limits Show today 13/12/2019

It matters who you learn from!

Many people ask me -Who is Dr John C Maxwell and why did i become friends with him, and the list of questions continue form there….. Dr John C Maxwell has written more than 100 leadership books – and very early in my leadership career -I got a hold of one – or should i say one book got a hold of my head 🙂 …..and ruined me for the management journey that was ahead of me. I am not a manager – I am a Leader – I love people, I love seeing people come alive in their work!!! None of this would have been possible without Dr John C Maxwell in my life -through his books. Most of the managers I was surrounded with violated the people element in appalling ways, These managers had no idea how to lead people. They would belittle people, they were rude, mean spirited and I was young and was already enlighten about the difference it makes when you have someone with leadership abilities as your leader.

Becoming a partner with Dr John C Maxwell for more than 5 years now, has been the game changer in my life. I spend 2 weeks per year with him and every month – Imam on a global call with hime where i can pose my questions and thoughts. Dr Maxwell loves and because he loves -he shares, he has shared his life with me, his faith journey, his wisdom, and his friends. John has gone further than anyone I know personally and John’s wisdom and mentorship in my life has radically changed the way I do life, His genuine interest in me has allowed me to share my dreams, aspirations and fears with him – that I never verbalised to anyone. And because he has gone further than I ever have -his wisdom is sound and and he has become my sounding board for all things leadership. His life will echo in mine forever or should I say, my life will echo his!!!

It matters who you learn from:

Ask yourself today, who do you have in your life that Up-Levels you, Up-Levels your thinking, stretches your play in the World!!! Challenges your small picture mindset!!! Flying solo is lonely and keep you small. PERIOD.

When you find them stick with them. And Become MORE!!!

I love the organisation I founded through my partnership with Dr John C Maxwell. The Leadership Academy SA is a Community of Coaches that partner with people’s and organisations potential. Find out more about our work by visiting our site.

Lots of love

Ella’

If you could live your life over again

“If you could live your life over what would you do differently?” The answers surprised me. With more that 5000 cumulative life experience….

If you could live your life over…

Hi Friends,

This is a short piece that is from Trip Around the Sun -Mark Batterson

Dr. Anthony Campolo, Professor of Sociology, Eastern College, St. Davids, Pennsylvania, shares the results of a survey where 50 people 95 years and older were asked: “If you could live your life over what would you do differently?” The answers surprised me. With more that 5000 cumulative life experience ……These old folks said that if they could live their lives over they would…

1. Reflect more.

These seniors said they would take the time to think about what was going on and live their lives along well-thought-out priorities. They would contemplate the meaning of life, family, work and much more.

2. Risk more.

These wonderful aged human beings said they would have taken more chances in life. If they could re-live their lives they wouldn’t be so scared to take risks. They would have developed more courage to venture out of their comfort zones.

3. Do things that would outlast them.

They wanted to know that their lives counted for something, that long after they left this world, somehow their impact would live on. We all can learn something from these people about setting goals.

Let’s take a moment to consider what they said as you set the course for your life -The TwentyTwenties are upon us, may you “BECOME MORE” You!!!

More to You!!!

Ella’

Beliefs Drive Behaviour

“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives”

“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives” Anthony Robbins

Anthony Robbins in his quote  describes the power and influence that beliefs have on our lives. Our beliefs control how we live our lives and if we choose to live our lives acting on our self limiting beliefs then we are accepting a life that is going nowhere and the future is grim. We all desire a life that is flourishing, full of happiness, love and joy, no one wants a miserable life where we languish in mediocrity.  People who lead successful and joyful lives have achieved this by choosing beliefs that support and empower them on their life journey.

So what are Beliefs?

Beliefs are the thoughts in our head that influence our behavior, attitude and actions. The beliefs that affect our lives are either Empowering Beliefs which enable us to lead flourishing lives or Self Limiting Beliefs that stop us from achieving our goals and where we live a life where we languish and flounder.

The Power of Choice is a wonderful gift that we all have and it is this gift that enables us to make choices about what we want to believe and what we don’t want to believe. Those who lead successful lives have chosen to believe in the thoughts that empower them and of course those who live in mediocrity have chosen to believe in the thoughts that disempower them. Beliefs are only thoughts and they are not real so with the power of choice we can change our thoughts anytime we want. The first step to changing how we think and feel is, to decide what the consequences are, if choose to act on our beliefs.  Don’t worry about if your beliefs are right or wrong just determine what the results will be if you act on them. This does take some practice but how long it takes depends on you! You just need to decide what Empowering Beliefs you need that will support you toward a life of success.

“You are the person who has to decide. Whether you’ll do it or toss it aside; you are the person who makes up your mind. Whether you’ll lead or will linger behind. Whether you’ll try for the goal that’s afar. Or just be contented to stay where you are”   Edgar A. Guest

To help you figure out what the beliefs will be that empower you toward success here are 10 Empowering Beliefs that Successful People believe to be true for them.

1. I am not afraid, only excited for what is ahead.

“It is this belief in a power larger than myself and other than myself which allows me to venture into the unknown and even the unknowable”. – Maya Angelou

2. I am responsible for the life I create.

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility” – Eleanor Roosevelt

3. Failure means nothing to me – I look for outcomes and if the outcomes are not what I expect, then I assess what I need to do to change those outcomes.

“Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.”  Oprah Winfrey

4. I embrace challenges because I will always find a way to overcome.

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated.      In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” – Maya Angelou

5. My vulnerability gives me strength and fuels my belief in me.

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy,accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.” ― Brené Brown

6. The past was who I was, the present is who I am and the future is who I may become.

“You can’t stop the future, You can’t rewind the past, The only way to learn the secret, …is to press play.”Jay Asher

7. The words I use to express who I am, are aligned to my beliefs and values and actions.

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, our actions become your habits,  Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.” -Mahatma Gandhi

8. I am on a continuous journey of learning, which I never want to end.

“Those people who develop the ability to continuously acquire new and better forms of knowledge that they can apply to their work and to their lives will be the movers and shakers in our society for the indefinite future.” – Brian Tracy

9. I accept that sometimes I can stuff up, make mistakes and that I am not perfect however I never stop trying to be the best person I can be.

“We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.” – Steve Maraboli,

10. I always dream big and I strive for that which is out of my reach – the impossible is worth striving for.

One can’t believe impossible things. I dare say you haven’t had much practice,” said the Queen. ”When I was your age, I always did it for half-an-hour a day. Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.” – Lewis Carroll

YOUR CHALLENGE

My Challenge to You: For the next 10 days choose one Empowering Belief to say 3 times a day. A good thing to do is to say the Empowering Belief while you look at yourself in the mirror. Each day try to behave and act in a way that supports the Empowering Belief you have chosen. Then wait, you will start to feel different and you will begin to transform. Once you want to commit to believing the impossible, daring to be different and living your life as an empowered individual you will have no option but to experience a life full of success and fulfillment. Why would you not do it?

“All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. So how do we change? The most effective way is to get your brain to associate massive pain to the old belief. You must feel deep in your gut that not only has this belief cost you pain in the past, but it’s costing you in the present and, ultimately,
can only bring you pain in the future. Then you must associate tremendous pleasure to the idea of adopting a new, empowering belief.”

If you believe you can do a thing, or if you believe you cannot, you’re usually right. – Henry Ford

When ideas are repeated over and over again they eventually become beliefs, or convictions, and they affect our decisions, behavior and perception of the world. Any idea that we accept as true will tend to become true for us, because we will act in a manner consistent with it. Your beliefs cause you to view, rationalize and interpret situations, people and especially yourself in accordance with those beliefs. This is because it is a natural function of the mind to remain congruent with what it has previously accepted as true. Basically, you do not necessarily believe what you see, but rather you see what you have already decided to believe. Your beliefs become your reality.

Types of Beliefs

The beliefs that affect our lives are either empowering or limiting. Limiting beliefs hold us back from our goals or detract from our enjoyment of life, while empowering beliefs cause us to reach for our goals and enjoy a greater quality of life. To make sure that your beliefs are empowering, you should ask yourself – for every new idea you come across, and for every strong conviction you already have – whether or not it is useful. Does it give you more power, flexibility and choice, or does it take away? Do not judge your beliefs on whether they are accurate or not according to your perception, but focus on the consequences of believing in them. Beliefs have little to do with reality and you can change them any time you want. You can choose to replace limiting beliefs with beliefs that empower you, beliefs that are consistent with the life that you wish to enjoy.

Empowering Beliefs

There are many empowering beliefs worth having that can enhance your quality of life. You can find them by considering what you would have to believe in order to be, have or do what you want in life. Here is a list of empowering beliefs that contains some useful generalizations or assumptions. They may not always be “true”, but by convincing yourself that they are and acting as if you believe them, you will begin to see the world from a more resourceful perspective.

There is no failure, only feedback. We learn from every experience and every response is only information that tells you whether you are being effective or not.

There are no problems, only challenges. Every obstacle is actually a stepping stone towards success to help you learn and grow.

There is no fear, only excitement. Let your fears motivate you to overcome them instead of holding you back.

If what I am doing is not working I will try something else. Be flexible and do not resist change. For something new to happen you have to try something different.

No matter what happens, I can handle it. Become confident that you can deal with anything that may happen in your life.

My past does not equal my future. At any point in time you can change any part of your life.

I am destined for success. Become absolutely convinced that you are a success in the making.

Everyone is secretly helping me to succeed. The concept of pronoia – assume the best of intentions of everyone around you.

Anyone can do anything and anything is possible. If one person in the world can do it anybody can by figuring out how they are doing it.

I am free to choose my own destiny. Accept that you are in control of your own life, decisions and actions.

Limiting Beliefs

We all possess some beliefs that do not ultimately support us. These negative beliefs exist whenever we incorrectly believe ourselves to be limited in any way. Most of the limitations we have are not based in reality at all, but exist only in our own minds. Irrespective of whether the limiting beliefs are real or not, they can become true for us. For example, people who are convinced they cannot succeed in an area – such as weight loss, relationships or finances – will not take any action to go beyond the limits they have set for themselves. Even if someone or something got them to try, they would still expect to fail, subconsciously sabotaging their efforts. They would also filter out references that run contrary to their conviction, while looking for and amplifying references to support it.

Do you have limiting beliefs about life, yourself, people, health, happiness, relationships, money or education that stop you from achieving the level of success you want? What are the limiting beliefs that come up in your self-talk whenever you think of something that you could be, have or do? Write them all down. The simple fact that you are having trouble making progress in an area often means that you have limiting beliefs there. Below is a list of some example limiting beliefs. As you can see, they mostly consist of either excuses or limiting, generalized statements.

Negative self-image beliefs – “I am too shy, old, young, weak, unlucky or incapable”.

Limiting rules – “If only that happened, then I would be happy” or “I must have this to be able to feel successful”.

Self-pity beliefs – “I do not deserve wealth, happiness or success”, “I am not good enough as I am”, “Other people are better than me”, “I do not like myself” or “I have to prove myself by becoming successful”.

Self-defeating beliefs – “I cannot succeed so there is no point in trying” or “It takes money to make money”.

Scarcity beliefs – “I do not have enough money, time or education”.

Inflexible beliefs – “That will not work for me”, “That is impossible”, “I tried that once and it did not work” or “I am right and you are wrong”.

Unsupportive metaphors, labels or perceptions – “Life is a pain, a struggle or hopeless”, “Money is bad, scarce or evil” or “People are mean, dishonest or selfish”.

Changing Beliefs

The first step to changing limiting beliefs is to become aware of them. In addition to those you have already found, you will also begin to notice new ones whenever they show up in your life, as a result of learning that they exist. You may, for example, catch yourself arguing for your limitations or holding yourself back because of past failures. We can often remove weak beliefs by simply making the choice to do so as soon as we realize that they are limiting. However, stronger convictions may take a bit more convincing to get rid of permanently.

A belief is nothing but an idea or opinion built up of reference experiences, so the way to change a limiting belief is to undermine those references by using contradicting references. The contradicting references in turn then build up a new empowering belief that replaces your limiting belief. A limiting belief such as “I always fail” could for example be transformed into “there is no failure”. Take your list of limiting beliefs and rewrite them, one at a time, into empowering beliefs that support you.

When you encounter a strong limiting belief you can transform it by reflecting repeatedly on experiences that support your new empowering belief and that dismiss your limiting belief. We all have enough references to backup just about any belief, and we can even use other people’s success experiences, movies or even our own imagination as references to support our new beliefs. The more emotional and extreme the references are, the stronger our new empowering belief will become.

Expectations

An important way in which beliefs impact our lives is through our expectations, or our beliefs about the future. Whatever we expect of ourselves becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy, because we will always act to fulfill those expectations. If you confidently expect to be successful, wealthy, liked and happy, you will prepare for those results and will seldom be disappointed. The people around us are also strongly affected by our expectations of them and respond accordingly, whether it is about their behavior or how it is you want to be treated. The great thing about expectations is that you can expect whatever you want. You should therefore make it a habit to continually expect the very best of yourself and from life, and you will have one of the keys to success.

Summary

1. Whatever we believe shapes our reality, because we always act in accordance with our beliefs.

2. Develop a belief system that supports you in getting what you want.

3. Challenge beliefs that do not support you and replace them with empowering beliefs.

4. Confidently expect good things to happen to you.

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